As The Club grows in members, some Shmillies have reported feeling uncomfortable about sharing the group with seven-figure entrepreneurs, feeling as though they don’t belong here with them. But this discomfort is crucial to your growth, so in this re-release of episode 50, I’m showing you how to think about it in a different way.
Inviting discomfort into your life enables you to push yourself to the next level necessary to grow your business. When you embrace discomfort, you begin to realize your abilities and accomplishments and open up to the possibility of what else you could be capable of. The Club is an amazing place for you to learn and grow, so I want you to lean into it and everything it offers, even if it sometimes feels uncomfortable.
Listen in this week and discover why the discomfort you feel shining in front of a larger group of people is exactly the discomfort I want you to feel right now. There is no growth in being comfortable, so learn how to get comfortable with feeling discomfort and lean into it to grow your business and create incredible things.
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What You'll Learn from this Episode:
- The difference between discomfort and pain.
- Why you won’t please everyone all of the time – and why that is perfectly OK.
- The importance of putting yourself out there to get what you want.
- Why we must all learn to trust ourselves more and stop being so concerned with what other people think.
- How to use discomfort as an opportunity for growth.
- Why discomfort is a good thing.
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I want you to understand that you have so much more control over generating wealth than you think. You have so much more ability to generate wealth than you think. And being visible, and being seen, and asking for what you want and asking for the business is a big part of that.
Welcome to the Hello Seven Podcast. I'm your host, Rachel Rodgers, wife, mother of four children, a lover of Beyoncé, coffee drinker, and afro-wearer, and I just happen to be the CEO of a seven-figure business. I am on a mission to help every woman I meet become a millionaire. If you want to make more money, you are in the right place. Let's get it going.
Hello friends, I just got back from a run. I have decided that I want to become a runner. I'm using the Peloton app and an Apple Watch and running. Trying to do two to three times a week using the app and it's just interval training. So it's like you do something really uncomfortable for a while and then you pause and you can walk a little bit. And then you do really uncomfortable shit again. And then you pause and you walk a little bit.
Interesting, not unlike growing a business and what we're doing in this group. So I'm very excited to talk to you guys. And I see that there's been lots of discussion about group size so I wanted to address that. And a couple of things, I have a lot of exciting things to tell you. I'm just like, sort of slowly rolling it out.
So a few things. One, I want you guys to think about discomfort in a different way. Discomfort, there's a difference between discomfort and pain, so let me be clear about that. If you're experiencing prolonged discomfort or really long-term, intense pain, that is something you should run away from.
I'm not suggesting you should lean into that.
But when it's discomfort, that's a good thing. So when you guys are posting and saying, “I'm uncomfortable because there are seven-figure entrepreneurs in this group. And who am I to be with them?” And I'm like, “What you mean, who are you to be with them? You absolutely have every right to be here. Take up space, you deserve to be in this space.”
And this is an unprecedented thing. I've had people messaging me, seven-figure entrepreneurs messaging me that I've masterminded with before who are in this group, and entrepreneurs who are newer. And the general consensus, especially among the more experienced, more seasoned entrepreneurs that are making lots of revenue, this space is unprecedented.
And typically, when you have a space where you've got super successful entrepreneurs and newer entrepreneurs, the super successful entrepreneurs are like, “Well, I can't be bothered.” Right? And that is not what you have here. You guys have something that I wish I had when I was first starting my business.
Which is a space where I could be brainstorming and masterminding with entrepreneurs at every level. With entrepreneurs of every different background. With entrepreneurs who are Black, and Hispanic, and Latina, and every background, and queer, and non-binary. Where I'm learning from a truly diverse group.
You guys, the more diverse the table is, the better the ideas that come from it. So there is a massive opportunity here that I want to make sure that you guys aren't missing. And it's something that I so desired as a new entrepreneur to be able to do.
And you know where I got it? Twitter. So if you think this group is too big, I want you to imagine me as a brand new baby entrepreneur in Twitter with millions of people and trying to connect with people. And I did. I did connect with people, I did make friends; I did make colleagues that then wound up being people I could call on the phone or I could send a DM to when I was struggling.
Having the feedback of entrepreneurs at all these different levels who have the experience of all these different industries, that is a blessing, you guys. And I don't want you to miss that. If you decide it's not for you, it's not for you. That's cool. I'm not suggesting that you have to love it here. But I want to make sure you're not missing how amazing it is that this group is what it is.
So that's one thing. The other thing that I wanted to share is during my run, so Robin Arzon is a Peloton instructor. And so during my run she was saying, “I know you think these next intervals you can't do it. Or you feel like the breaks are getting too short in between and you're wanting to give up.” She was like, “But trust me, the body can do what the mind thinks it can’t.” And I was like, “Damn, that's good. I got to share that with the Schmillies.” Robin be coming with the gems.
So if you guys don't use the Peloton app, y'all should use it for your workouts. Especially with Robin. I mean all of them are basically like life coaches, but Robin in particular is one of my favorites. So anyway, she's always dropping gems.
And what I took from that in the midst of my run is like, “Oh, I can do so much more than I think I can. And so I need to just go and do it and stop thinking about it and over analyzing it and wondering.” Because we live in a hilly area. And so I don't have flat land to run on and I'm learning to become a runner. But I'm learning to become a runner going up and down hills because I don't really have a lot of flat land access, like close by.
And so I was just making that mean that I shouldn't have to work as hard or that I can't do another interval because I just went up this hill. I had all these reasons in my head and when she said that I was like, “Oh, I'm full of shit. And I need to just go do it.” And let's find out, right, let's find out if I can do it. Let me just try.
So all of that to say it made me think about, as I was coming to the end of my run, that the discomfort you feel shining in front of a larger group of people is exactly the discomfort I want you to feel. I want you to feel that discomfort. And unless it's like a debilitating thing that requires therapy or something like that, if it's not to that extent or whatever, then I want you to really lean into that. Because that was something that was really important for me.
Trust me, I spent many years in my business hiding behind my laptop and being on Twitter because I didn't have to have my face be seen. I was embarrassed. I didn't feel like I looked good enough, or cool enough, or polished enough. I didn't dress that well or whatever stupid excuses I had in my head. Or I gained too much weight because I used to have this horrific relationship with my body. And so I would always, always try to hide. And guess what? The more I hid, the less money came my way.
I want you to understand that you have so much more control over generating wealth than you think. You have so much more ability to generate wealth than you think. And being visible and being seen and asking for what you want and asking for the business is a big part of that.
So I really want you guys, while we are in this group, in this larger space to really put yourself out there. Like get out on Broadway and show us what you got. Share your pics, share your thoughts. Ask for what you want. On Sundays when it's self-made Sunday, ask for the business. Learn how to put yourself out there. Learn how to pitch yourself. Learn how to get comfortable being uncomfortable, because that is where the growth is at.
There will be no growth if you don't put yourself in an uncomfortable space. So if you've been accustomed to joining spaces where you feel super comfortable, then this is your opportunity. And I want to challenge you to invite discomfort into your life so that you can push yourself to that next level and really find out what else you can do. What else you are made of. What else can you accomplish?
You guys, I know you believe this. You know how I know? It’s because you all cheered me on when I tried to do something ridiculous and impossible, which is have a million dollar month. And you guys believed in it and me. And you were all like, “Listen, do it. Put yourself on Facebook Live, share it everywhere. We encourage you; we support you. We're helping you do it.”
So now I want you to bring that same energy to your own goals and to what you need. And put yourself out there and ask for it. Because I'm going to tell you, it is amazing how much we will miss out on in life because we're worried about what somebody thinks. And I really want to encourage you guys to be okay with- Somebody is not going to like it.
I have to tell you; my platform has grown significantly in the last 60 days. And so now I'm on a bigger stage and I'm getting a lot of PR. And I was talking to a reporter yesterday and she asked me some questions. And I was like, “Damn, I really want to think about how to answer these questions because I have no idea how it's going to show up in that article. And if it'll be spun in a way that's not what I really mean.
Or there will be a lot more people who know about me and what I believe and decide they hate me.” Like there are even people who are like, “How dare you have a million dollar month in the middle of a pandemic? Who do you think you are?” And that was one of the journalist’s questions.
And so I want you to just remember who you are, lean into yourself, trust yourself. If there's anything we are here to do in The Club it’s to learn how to trust ourselves more. Learn how to believe in ourselves and our abilities more. And be okay with people not liking it and be okay with people loving it.
Because that is what you probably really are afraid of, is everyone will love it. And everyone will find out how amazing you are and then you'll have to keep doing it. And that's not even true.
So anyway, I hope that this is encouraging to you guys. I want you to lean into the abundance of it all, okay? Have a creation energy. This is something Natalie is always talking about, like victim versus creator. And let's be clear, there are plenty of places, like our government is all victimizing us and our children right now. Which I want to get out my pitchfork and just go fucking burn it all down.
So I'm not talking about that. But I'm talking about places where you are in control, decide how you want to show up. Do I want to show up as a victim of my circumstances? Or do I want to show up as a creator that's making amazing things?
So even posting and saying, “Hey, I feel uncomfortable and here's what I need.” That is showing up as a creator. You're asking for what you need, you're creating circumstances where you can get your needs met. And that is beautiful. And it is so uncomfortable, especially for the women among us. And especially it can be very uncomfortable for Black women, because this is not a fucking safe world for us.
Let's be honest, it's been very uncomfortable. And beyond uncomfortable, right? It's been horrific. And so remember, we have all of that built into how we work. And that can affect how we're showing up every day and how we show up in communities like this. How we show up in our daily lives. And whether we ask for things or not.
I had to learn how to become somebody who asked for what I want. And it's still uncomfortable to this day. Y'all probably see me as this truth teller who’s a loudmouth and says whatever she wants. There are so many times where I don't do that because I'm shook. So trust me, this is a daily battle. This is not something that's resolved at one time.
But I personally believe that you are in the right place. And I think there is really no other better place that I could think of that I would refer you to on the internet that could support you the way that The Club is supporting you. And that gives you access to this amazing community, and entrepreneurs at every level.
And one of the things that we're going to be rolling out to you is the Hello Seven Growth Scale. Which we have shared that with our masterminds, we haven't shared it with you guys yet. We're actually updating it and sort of creating the version 2.0 of it. But it will help you sort of find yourself on the scale and say, “Okay, where am I at within my business?”
And then based on where you're at in your business, it'll show you what are the things I need to be working on. In my personal life, in my business life, where am I needing to challenge myself? What kind of million dollar decisions do I need to be making? What different types of million dollar behavior do I need to engage with? What do I need to think about in terms of team? What do I need to think about in terms of marketing?
And so I'm so excited to share this resource with you guys soon. But just know that there is so much more coming. So stick around because you don't want to miss it. And you don't want to have FOMO. And we hear you. And listen, we are up in this group every day listening to everything that is going on and supporting you. And responding and talking about the discussion.
So even if we're not responding, even if we hadn't responded exactly to your conversation, trust me, as a coaching team we are discussing it. And every day, what we are doing every day is finding ways to make this space serve you better. So just know that and we love you.
Have a beautiful day. And for those of you who did, not to give everyone FOMO, but for those who committed to the annual, we're doing our first of two of the bonus workshops, Build Your Own Bank, in just a little while. So I'm really excited for that. So I will see y'all then.
And if you haven't, get out there, manage your stress, manage your discomfort by moving your body. I have to tell you, and I say this every time, y'all know I'm not a size four. I'm not like a perky little yoga girl. No shade to perky little yoga girls. But that is what we put out there as an image of who can be athletic, right? And who can engage in physical activity. Trust me, we all need it. If you are human, you need it.
And so do it in whatever way works for you. And even if movement is not something that's on the table for you right now, meditation, right? Like how can you calm your mind? And how can you basically cross train, is what I see it as. So how can you cross train and be working your mind and managing your stress levels? Because stress levels are very high right now. And so I know I didn't work out yesterday, and I had a shitty day, to be honest. And a splitting headache most of the day.
So this is, again, where I could say, “Well, I'm a victim of this headache, and I'm a victim of this pandemic. And I'm a victim of this shitty world that we live in, and racism and all of those things.” And that can be true, and where is my power? Where do I have power? And where can I make a powerful move and get to a place where I feel good?
So all right, I'm going to leave y'all to it. Talk to you soon. Bye, guys.
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